When I realized my Child wasn’t “too much”, They Just Needed to be Understood

There was a season when every day felt like walking on glass. (TBH some days still feel that way) 

Tiny things set my son off
the wrong shirt, the loud toilet, too many questions, not enough attention, the red cup instead of the blue one.

I knew my child was sensitive.
But I didn’t really understand what that meant. Like truly meant.
Not until I started looking closer. 

Not until I stopped asking, “Why are they acting like this?”
and started asking, “What does he need right now?” that really starting changing the game for me. 

Can I be real with you for a second? 

Our children aren’t too much.
They’re humans, imperfect, raw, still-learning humans trying to make sense of a big world inside of tiny bodies.

They don’t have a roadmap.
They rely on us to guide them through it.

But here’s the hard truth:
You can’t guide someone you don’t understand.

That’s why really knowing your child matters.

Knowing what overwhelms them.
Knowing what calms them.
Knowing their triggers, their sensory needs, their fears, and their patterns.
Not to excuse the behavior but to support the human underneath it.

Because support is what leads to change.

And when you really know your child
not just their behaviors, but their heart, something sacred happens.

You start to see the beauty inside the chaos.
You notice how their tiny hands fidget when they’re overwhelmed.
How their big feelings crash like waves, not because they’re bad,
but because they’re learning how to swim.

You stop trying to fix them and start loving them as they are.

Their small smiles, the way they say your name,
those fleeting moments when they collapse into your arms
they are not “too much.”
They are good. They are wonderful.
Even in the hardest moments.

They are little souls trying to figure out how to live in this world.
And they need you not a perfect parent, but a curious one.

Because empathy with our children doesn’t come from control.
It comes from understanding.
And understanding comes from curiosity.

Curiosity to ask:
Who are you?
What do you need?
And how can I walk beside you as you grow?

That’s exactly why I created The Heart-Led Parent, and specifically the Pick Your Kid framework inside of it.

It’s not one-size-fits-all parenting.
It’s not “say this, do that” scripts.
It’s about getting honest and curious:

Who is my child really?
Are they fiery, sensitive, anxious, avoidant?
What sets them off?
What do they need to regulate and grow?

When you parent from that place—from understanding instead of frustration—
everything shifts.

You become the steady anchor.
The safe place.
The guide they’ve been waiting for.

If you’ve ever said,
“I feel like I should know what to do by now.”
“Nothing seems to work with my kid.”
“I love them so much, but they’re just… a lot.”

This is your next step.

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Because your child was never too much.
They just needed you to understand them deeply—so you could lead them bravely.

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